Empty Seat At The Table

For most of us, the Holidays are steeped in warmth and tradition, and are spent sharing meals and exchanging gifts with family and friends. Yet for those of us who love a child in the throes of addiction, this time of year is often a source of pain. We grieve the child, or children who […]

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Drug Court – Rehabilitation Not Incarceration

I recently had the pleasure of speaking at our local Family Drug Court Graduation ceremony. With a demanding speaking schedule earlier in the day, I arrived at the Deschutes County Courthouse frazzled and anxious. But as the gallery filled with the friends and families of the graduates, some of whom I knew, my anxiety yielded […]

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Legalize marijuana in Oregon? Don’t Jump!

My beautiful Oregon is now at the jumping off point and facing the abyss of one of the greatest social experiments of the past century. Voters will soon decide the fate of Measure 91 and whether or not marijuana, currently a controlled substance, can join the ranks of legalized free enterprise. Worry pounds in my […]

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Recovering Meth Addict Answers the Burning Questions

I sat down with my daughter recently, and asked her some of the burning questions about addiction that we all want answers to. Annie is now thirty-one and eight years clean and sober. In view of the obvious risks involved, people are curious why anyone initiates drug use, and why one continues to use drugs in […]

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“A Very Fine House” Releases!

Barbara Cofer Stoefen and her daughter, Annie, at the Barnes and Noble release of “A Very Fine House: A Mother’s Story of Love, Faith and Crystal Meth.” Annie is now 8 years clean and this is her mother’s story of how they BOTH recovered. There is hope. There is recovery.

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Hope for Addicts

I’m part of a community of moms who support one another. Maybe you are too. There are so many different kinds of support groups for moms. We have play groups for our toddlers, girl’s night out, cooking groups, hiking and book clubs, gym buddies, diet clubs and Bible studies. Over the years I’ve been in […]

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8 Things Parents Can Do To Help Keep Their Kids Off Drugs

When raising my son and daughter, Annie and Jeff, I never thought about, or worried about addiction. I mean, addiction is something that happens to other people, right? People who can’t control their choices or their lives. Addiction was something I equated with old men and bored housewives, not teenagers. The kinds of things I […]

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Meth in the Family

A great way to start the day. I had the wonderful opportunity this morning to share my story of hope. Local radio host, Lori Raab, interviewed me… and she asked great questions about meth, addiction, and enabling. We also talked about the marijuana measure that will be on Oregon’s ballot this fall. Please listen if you […]

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Book trailer, A Very Fine House

“ALL writers grow increasingly more hypochondriacal as publication approaches,” so said the great Anne Lamott before the release of her last book. St. Anne, as some have dubbed her, may have been on to something. Not that I in any way compare to dear Anne, but her insight may explain the heart attack-like symptoms I […]

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Brain Science and Teen Drug Use

  “What were you thinking?!” This is the quintessential utterance of every parent, to every teenager that has ever lived. It’s behavior that mystifies, that defies all the elements of common sense. What were you thinking when you jumped off the roof into the swimming pool… lit that fire in the driveway… or dumped green […]

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